A Balinese “baby shower” – Ceremony for the Baby 42 Days after Birth
How Balinese Hindus celebrate the birth and development of a new family member
Religion is very much integrated in Balinese society. In no other country in the world than in Indonesia so many religions live side by side.
All the world’s major religions are represented – some more than others: Christians, Hindus, Buddhists and Muslims celebrate and pray daily in churches, temples and mosques.
Space for prayer and meditation can be found anywhere in Bali. Prayers and rituals are done early in the morning. Those who live next to a temple or a mosque don’t need an alarm clock. Although this tumult can get on the nerves of a late riser, it can be an advantage for someone else. Sometimes you can hear beautiful melodies, which can make it easier to get up in the morning.
At 5 o’clock the singing from the Koran is heard. An hour later, this is followed by rhythmic prayers from the temple’s speakers. Bali’s population does not sleep much. First, there is prayer and preparation of the offerings. During the day it is indeed peaceful, but the praising of the gods will be done repeatedly at certain times, so continuous prayer often determines people’s daily lives.
For special religious followers as Hindus – the largest religion on Bali – almost every day is a holy day. We meet women in traditional garb, balancing fruit and offerings for sacrificial ceremonies on their heads to the temples. The aroma of incense hangs in the air.
The offerings are hard to miss. They are placed in the most unusual and most inopportune places: in front of doorways, in front of shops, in the street and even in heavy traffic. Despite this, do not step on them or drive over them with your scooter. People find a way to avert them because they are holy.
Therefore, my advice to all those who visit Bali for the first time is: keep your eyes peeled when walking or driving! Stepping on an offering is considered an insult to the gods.
In the baskets braided from palm leaves are flowers, fruits, cookies, candies, coins and incense. They are offered to the gods in the temples as a sign of faith and solidarity. After a prayer and other rituals, the sacrifices are considered blessed and can be taken home, to share with the family. During the sacrifice, the essence – or Sari – has been taken from the offerings by the gods. A portion will be returned and may be consumed by humans.
The sweet treats also attract the monkeys of Monkey Forest in Ubud. Since monkeys are deities in Hinduism, it is not considered to be too bad when a monkey takes an offering. Always good for some entertainment.
Hindus are the world’s leader in celebrating. For every stage in life – from birth to death, there is a ceremony to pay tribute to a person’s development. Most ceremonies revolve around the theme pregnancy and childbirth. A newborn must go through eight ceremonies until it is ready to be integrated into the Hindu community.
8 ceremonies a child has to go through before it becomes a member of the community
The temple at these ceremonies is the place to receive and to encounter – to encounter the gods and the people from the family, friends, or the temple community.
In Hindu belief, there are various temples for different purposes and ceremonies. Bali, the island with thousands of temples, has temples in every district, every village and every household. Often even a single house has its own temple.
Typically, a temple is shared with several close members, such as a small village or a family. Daily prayers and recurring ceremonies are held there.
The 8 most important Hindu ritual cycles for a baby
In the eighth month of pregnancy, the expecting parents decent into a river. A ritual in which small fish are placed on the mother’s abdomen with their heads facing downward, assuring an easy birth. They should show the baby the way out of the mother’s womb.
2. The birth
The placenta is burned after birth. What happens afterwards, depends on the baby’s gender. For a boy: the placenta is burned on the right side of the pavilion facing North. The seat of the Hindu deities is in the North. For a girl: the burning is done on the left side.
Further objects are added to the fire; such as a pencil, a brush, a book or a fan. Objects represent talents that you want to pass to the children on their way to adulthood.
For parents, it is not allowed to enter the kitchen for three days.
3. Ceremony on the 3rd day after the birth
In a purification ritual, parents are given permission to enter the kitchen again.
12 days after the birth, the umbilical cord falls off. It is then preserved in a shrine in honor of Kumara, the guardian of all newborns.
5. Ceremony on the 42nd day after the birth
This ceremony is the most festive and most important for the newborn and its parents. We were allowed to be there. Friends of our couchsurfing host organized a Hindu baby ceremony and we were invited.
The ceremony serves as a protection. The baby has developed well up to this point and you want to protect and advance this development. In the center of the forehead there is the third eye – the human soul. Rice grains are placed here. The baby has to be brave for what follows. A chick and a young duck are placed together under a special chicken fight cage. The baby is then laid down in the middle. The two birds will peck the rice grains from the baby’s forehead. The baby will have to grab objects around it. These objects have been blessed in advance and if the baby reaches for them, it will determine the child’s future.
6. 3-Month Ceremony
After 3 months, the newborn and its mother will leave the house and touch the ground for the first time. Up until this time, the mother stays in the house with the baby, where it is not allowed to touch the ground.
Instead of throwing the baby in the deep, an eggplant is thrown outside, symbolizing first contact with the environment. The Hindus believe that by doing this, evil spirits that may surround the baby are “driven to the streets”.
It is only after these 3 months that the baby gets his name, since it has now been introduced to the outside world.
7. Odalan (Mundan) Ceremony
After 6 months (210 days), the Odalan ceremony is held. The child’s first official birthday is celebrated. Every 6 months this ceremony will be repeated.
8. Third Odalan Ceremony
In Balinese culture, the baby is now considered two years old.
The baby’s first hair is cut off and the whole head is shaved, symbolizing purity. A pluck of hair is sacrificed by throwing it into the water. The scalp is anointed with Gangajal, holy water and turmeric – a yellow ginger. The paste is made to protect the baby from injuries in everyday life.
After the last baby ceremony, calmness returns to the family’s house. The next ceremony is hold after the child reaches puberty. Since most Hindu families have several children, their peace and quiet doesn’t last very long. If it isn’t one’s own children that celebrate their “life cycle ceremonies”, it will be for children of relatives, friends and neighbors.